Im cursed by the label, nice guy. I say cursed because it seems that "nice guys" dont get chosen as often as the "bad boys." Lets not even go to how being with a bad boy will almost always get the women hurt. Lets stick to us nice guys for the duration of this tirade.
What is a nice guy? One who has or has less vices than he has thumbs. One who would rather hurt himself than hurt someone else. One who actually respects women and not just enjoys them. One who enjoys the simple things in life. One who doesnt take a lot of risks ... One girls think is boring. One girls think would just freak them out because they will be such pushovers. The geeks, nerds, etc etc.
The last part about the geeks remind me of this article i found and placed on my site. It is entitled, "A Girl's Guide to Geek Guys." You can check it out at www.Perez.ph. Click the articles link on the bottom... i digress.
Nice guys are never boring. Have you been with one? Having very few vices mean that they have the time and the money to learn a whole bunch of stuff. When youre old and gray, a time when all you guys will have is conversation at night... (note that most of these guys probably dont smoke or drink so they will probably have enough vascular health to maintain an erection for years longer than those with the said vices).. the nice guys will regale you with lots of trivia, insights and stuff that he dreamed about. Come to think of it, at that point, he would have accomplished all his dreams and would have shared the experiences with you. Some nice guys might be shy around girls so it really would take a little work from you to bring him around but once he's comfortable with you, he beats the energizer bunny in exuberance.
Nice guys are faithful .. 'nuff said.
Nice guys are not pushovers. They just dont like screaming and irrational conversations. Its always easier to deal with a problem by rationally talking about it. If you want to scream and let all your passion out, there are better places to bring that out than in argument situations. Most of these guys have much louder voices than you so dont try a shouting match ;)
Some of these nice guys may dislike hurting people because 1) they dont like being hurt and have been in the past and/or 2) they are actually scared of hurting people because they can do so much damage. Being nice may make them targets for some bullies and some actually did something about it. Martial arts, weights, and weapons training come to mind. Being nice, they are sensitive enough to know how much pain and damage they can inflict and are thusly very cautious about getting into fights. As for emotional pain, most can take getting beat up but to have their hearts broken feels much worse. The sensitivity factor comes into play here. Still, if i ever get into a gang war, i would rather have a whole bunch of nice guys in my side than a whole batallion of bad boys. Not only will my guys probably win with sheer intellect and skill but if things go bad, they will stand by you whatever happens.
Im so sick and tired of hearing my female friends rant about what this guy did and what that guy did to hurt them. Later on, they end up with a nice guy and find bliss or find it after getting over all the damage and baggage. If they chose a nice guy to begin with, things would have been worry free from the beginning. I admit that there are some nice guys who end up not being so nice. Bad apples and all that but most of the time, there's less problems with us nice guys.
Dont try to ask a nice guy to be bad. Its just very difficult. I remember a Philo class where we discussed how a bad guy turned good at his deathbed and was admitted into heaven. Nearly impossible. You see, being bad or good is a choice, rather a series of choices. You can say that it is like driving a car and accellerating towards one direction. Each choice you make, lets say, for the good is like stepping on the accellerator as you head along the road to being good. For the bad guy to suddenly have a change of heart for the good on his deathbed is like a car travelling at 200km/hr and suddenly stopping on a dime, turning 180 degrees and move towards the good. Like i said, nearly impossible. Besides, what is it about the bad boys do girls like? Is it the image? Sheesh! Just change the cover! Lots of makeover crap popping up nowadays. Is it the lifestyle? The nice guys are always open to new stuff. Teach them. Thats something else about nice guys, they can change. Most bad boys, will not even entertain the notion.
I'll talk about philandering, role models for children, companionship and stability some other time. For now, get to know a nice guy. They make good friends as well as good lovers.
(i have a feeling that my ranting above lacks good sentence construction and my thoughts are not properly composed... thank God im a Doctor and not an English major! You should see my handwriting!)
What is a nice guy? One who has or has less vices than he has thumbs. One who would rather hurt himself than hurt someone else. One who actually respects women and not just enjoys them. One who enjoys the simple things in life. One who doesnt take a lot of risks ... One girls think is boring. One girls think would just freak them out because they will be such pushovers. The geeks, nerds, etc etc.
The last part about the geeks remind me of this article i found and placed on my site. It is entitled, "A Girl's Guide to Geek Guys." You can check it out at www.Perez.ph. Click the articles link on the bottom... i digress.
Nice guys are never boring. Have you been with one? Having very few vices mean that they have the time and the money to learn a whole bunch of stuff. When youre old and gray, a time when all you guys will have is conversation at night... (note that most of these guys probably dont smoke or drink so they will probably have enough vascular health to maintain an erection for years longer than those with the said vices).. the nice guys will regale you with lots of trivia, insights and stuff that he dreamed about. Come to think of it, at that point, he would have accomplished all his dreams and would have shared the experiences with you. Some nice guys might be shy around girls so it really would take a little work from you to bring him around but once he's comfortable with you, he beats the energizer bunny in exuberance.
Nice guys are faithful .. 'nuff said.
Nice guys are not pushovers. They just dont like screaming and irrational conversations. Its always easier to deal with a problem by rationally talking about it. If you want to scream and let all your passion out, there are better places to bring that out than in argument situations. Most of these guys have much louder voices than you so dont try a shouting match ;)
Some of these nice guys may dislike hurting people because 1) they dont like being hurt and have been in the past and/or 2) they are actually scared of hurting people because they can do so much damage. Being nice may make them targets for some bullies and some actually did something about it. Martial arts, weights, and weapons training come to mind. Being nice, they are sensitive enough to know how much pain and damage they can inflict and are thusly very cautious about getting into fights. As for emotional pain, most can take getting beat up but to have their hearts broken feels much worse. The sensitivity factor comes into play here. Still, if i ever get into a gang war, i would rather have a whole bunch of nice guys in my side than a whole batallion of bad boys. Not only will my guys probably win with sheer intellect and skill but if things go bad, they will stand by you whatever happens.
Im so sick and tired of hearing my female friends rant about what this guy did and what that guy did to hurt them. Later on, they end up with a nice guy and find bliss or find it after getting over all the damage and baggage. If they chose a nice guy to begin with, things would have been worry free from the beginning. I admit that there are some nice guys who end up not being so nice. Bad apples and all that but most of the time, there's less problems with us nice guys.
Dont try to ask a nice guy to be bad. Its just very difficult. I remember a Philo class where we discussed how a bad guy turned good at his deathbed and was admitted into heaven. Nearly impossible. You see, being bad or good is a choice, rather a series of choices. You can say that it is like driving a car and accellerating towards one direction. Each choice you make, lets say, for the good is like stepping on the accellerator as you head along the road to being good. For the bad guy to suddenly have a change of heart for the good on his deathbed is like a car travelling at 200km/hr and suddenly stopping on a dime, turning 180 degrees and move towards the good. Like i said, nearly impossible. Besides, what is it about the bad boys do girls like? Is it the image? Sheesh! Just change the cover! Lots of makeover crap popping up nowadays. Is it the lifestyle? The nice guys are always open to new stuff. Teach them. Thats something else about nice guys, they can change. Most bad boys, will not even entertain the notion.
I'll talk about philandering, role models for children, companionship and stability some other time. For now, get to know a nice guy. They make good friends as well as good lovers.
(i have a feeling that my ranting above lacks good sentence construction and my thoughts are not properly composed... thank God im a Doctor and not an English major! You should see my handwriting!)